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my friend and i just discovered the identity of the man who had been posing as a 19 year old and has been in a relationship with her online over a year ago. he's in his 50s and has a son that goes to the school we both just graduated from and he is also talking to many other girls at the school. my friend is scared for her safety when we report him and seems like she almost doesnt want to. what can i do to help her?
Anonymous
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I say report him. One day these “innocent” online flirtations may become more serious and he could actually do something to a minor. Maybe he already has. There is no way to know how he’d react once reported. But she has her online proof. And assuming these other girls come forward too, there will be a lot of proof against him. He will be arrested as a child predator. 

How were you able to connect the fake profile to this man? The police will ask the same thing. I’m actually curious though. 


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I have been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Anorexia Nervosa, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I feel so broken. I'm in recovery, currently, but my flashbacks and nightmares are giving me urges to relapse. It would be so much easier if I was numb, and couldn't feel anything. I feel so lost.
Anonymous
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I’ve got everything that you have except for anorexia. And I know that it is hard. Adding anorexia on top of that makes it so much harder. I am glad you are recovering, and recovery can take a long time. There can be relapses, and if there are, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. You are not weak. Relapses are part of recovering. And I agree, it would be easier if we couldn’t feel anything. Some medications can numb you, but it’s only temporary, and you still generally feel like shit. 

It is very hard to live with these mental illnesses. There are days where you don’t want to get out of bed, or just can’t. There are days maybe where you want to die. There are days where you don’t feel good enough. There’s a lot of negative thoughts. Too many. 

And one day those thoughts will start to die down. 

And pretty soon those thoughts will be gone for the most part. Some might pop up every now and then. But there will be a day when your mind feels healthier. 

And you will get there. 


The guy who abused me in high school invaded my dreams last night. But it wasn’t only him. It was him mom too. She was giving me condolences on my brother’s death. And she heard through other parents that I wasn’t doing well and was trying to talk to me and I just wanted her to go away and/or shout to her that her son treated me like hell and is a bastard. 

Not a fun dream. No.


paceuendrape:

Rape isn’t “sex gone wrong.” #paceuendrape #paceuniversity #paceu #pacebound #collegerape #sexualassault #stickynotes

paceuendrape:

Rape isn’t “sex gone wrong.” #paceuendrape #paceuniversity #paceu #pacebound #collegerape #sexualassault #stickynotes



ninjaotta:

just-your-average-superman:

cherry-babe:

mystuffstuff:

sarcasticallyfabulous:

johnnysjetpack:

miso-soup-gyny:

anti-feminism-pro-equality:

What if this had been reverse? What if the girl dumped him and then he smashed all of her CDS or her cellphone and laptop? How would society react? By calling him abusive and controlling.
See, female on male abuse is seen as funny or comical. you see those commercials with the wife throwing the boyfriends stuff out the window. IF the genders were reversed, everyone would see it and call it out for what it really is…abuse.
Abuse is not funny in any way shape or form.
This is why we don’t need feminism.

This mother fucker also owes him a fuckton of money.

thats more than 600$ worth of games!
that’s a fucking felony, theft and destruction of property. call the law on the psycho bitch!

"This is why we don’t need feminism."
Actually, it’s why we DO need feminism. Because feminism isn’t about making women superior and putting men on the bottom. Feminism IS about making everyone equal. The “comedy” behind male abuse is a result of the patriarchy, which is exactly what feminism is trying to destroy. The patriarchy mocks weakness in men, so when men get abused, it’s not taken seriously. It’s a joke, it’s funny, it’s no big deal. “You’re a man, suck it up.”
That’s not what feminists want. If you think that’s what we want, then you you’re not talking to the right feminists. It’s about equality, NOT just reversing the roles, understand?
It’s not okay to abuse women, it’s not okay to abuse men, it’s not okay to abuse ANYONE. That’s the fucking point. The point isn’t “whaa it’s time for women to get to be mean you need to lean your place”. The point is gender inequality is stupid and unhelpful to everyone.
So if you don’t like the way men are treated, don’t hate on feminists. Join them. We don’t like it either.

Thank you.

THANK YOU.

I wish the feminists on this site would all think this way.

all the feminists on this site do think this way. the people who don’t think this way are not feminists

ninjaotta:

just-your-average-superman:

cherry-babe:

mystuffstuff:

sarcasticallyfabulous:

johnnysjetpack:

miso-soup-gyny:

anti-feminism-pro-equality:

What if this had been reverse? What if the girl dumped him and then he smashed all of her CDS or her cellphone and laptop? How would society react? By calling him abusive and controlling.

See, female on male abuse is seen as funny or comical. you see those commercials with the wife throwing the boyfriends stuff out the window. IF the genders were reversed, everyone would see it and call it out for what it really is…abuse.

Abuse is not funny in any way shape or form.

This is why we don’t need feminism.

This mother fucker also owes him a fuckton of money.

thats more than 600$ worth of games!

that’s a fucking felony, theft and destruction of property. call the law on the psycho bitch!

"This is why we don’t need feminism."

Actually, it’s why we DO need feminism. Because feminism isn’t about making women superior and putting men on the bottom. Feminism IS about making everyone equal. The “comedy” behind male abuse is a result of the patriarchy, which is exactly what feminism is trying to destroy. The patriarchy mocks weakness in men, so when men get abused, it’s not taken seriously. It’s a joke, it’s funny, it’s no big deal. “You’re a man, suck it up.”

That’s not what feminists want. If you think that’s what we want, then you you’re not talking to the right feminists. It’s about equalityNOT just reversing the roles, understand?

It’s not okay to abuse women, it’s not okay to abuse men, it’s not okay to abuse ANYONE. That’s the fucking point. The point isn’t “whaa it’s time for women to get to be mean you need to lean your place”. The point is gender inequality is stupid and unhelpful to everyone.

So if you don’t like the way men are treated, don’t hate on feminists. Join them. We don’t like it either.

Thank you.

THANK YOU.

I wish the feminists on this site would all think this way.

all the feminists on this site do think this way. the people who don’t think this way are not feminists

(via cassiopeia69)



Wait no. 

No change has been made. Literally one sentence makes the whole thing become a loop-hole. My sister caught it. I was in too much distress to catch it. The very last sentence goes against ALL OF THE ABOVE.


My dad is going to come get me today. I was supposed to stay here and do my ceramics project but I am too depressed to do it so my dad is coming to get me. I can’t stop crying.



Wait.

I am actually even more pissed off than I was before.

But like, Pace changed their fucking policy. Or they’re saying they did.

Here is an open letter to the students that was posted on Pace Portal recently:

THINGS FUCKING CHANGED

LIKE THAT IS GOOD YES

BUT

WHY DID I NEED TO SUFFER SO MUCH

I AM STILL GOING TO SUE THEIR ASSES

BUT

THEY ARE FUCKING CHANGING

DEFINITELY BECAUSE THE DEPT. OF EDU ALONG WITH THE STUDENTS ARE PUTTING PRESSURE ON THEM

BUT

LIKE

OH MY FUCKING GOD

THEY ARE DOING THIS TO TRY AND GET OUT OF PAYING A LARGE FINE

WHICH THEY SHOULD STILL PAY

BECAUSE

THEY

FUCKING

BROKE THE FUCKING LAW

ASSHOLES


I just want to eat cake and die.


to the anon: It’s not your fault. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Is there an adult in your life who you trust and could talk to? Or a friend who you can confide in? You don’t have to go through this alone. That being said, if the assailants are over 18, you legally cannot consent. Being pregnant as a result would be proof that it happened and you could have them held responsible. You have options and choices. This is overwhelming but please continue to reach out for help and support.


I “woke up on the wrong side of the bed.” 

I am so angry and just PISSED OFF today. 

I can’t imagine going to the studio and working on my project.

I am literally just so pissed off.

I don’t want to do anything.