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I'm so glad you didn't kill yourself years ago. Things may have been bad then and they may be worse now. I don't doubt that and no one is saying things aren't bad. I know it sucks and is annoying to hear from someone who doesn't know your life and situation, but you have to believe there will come a time when u won't be in the place you are now. Mentally & physically. I don't know when, but I do know things change. Just hold on until things change. You did it before, u can do it again. I know.
Anonymous
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Things change, yes, but never in a good way. Things always end up sucking tremendously. The bad in my life overpowers the good. 


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I feel guilty about it every single day. Even though my boyfriend and I weren't technically together. And I feel like I can't properly explain why I did what I did without telling him the story of my past abusive relationship. Me feel shame and regret and hate for myself every day for it.
Anonymous
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If you feel guilt and shame over not telling him then one way to get rid of that guilt would be to tell him. He might be upset that you hadn’t told him sooner. I hope you don’t feel guilty about the events though, because they were not your fault at all. 

You can choose to tell whomever you want whenever you want about what happened. It has to do with when you feel comfortable with sharing the information. Just because you are dating a person does not mean that you HAVE to tell them. It might be helpful to tell them, for supportive reasons, but it’s never necessary. 


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I was raped when I was 16 by the guy I was dating. A few months after that relationship ended I entered my current relationship which I've been in for several years. When we were first starting out we got I to a huge fight one night and decided to "go on a break." A guy friend of mine took me out for ice cream. He locked me in the car with him and wouldn't take me home until I agreed to have sex with him. So I did. My current boyfriend doesn't know about either What should I do?
Anonymous
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I really hate my life.

I should have killed myself years ago.

Nothing improved.



loveisrespect:

At the Hotline and loveisrespect, we know that domestic violence and dating abuse can affect anyone—including men. Although they make up a smaller percentage of our callers and chatters, there are many more men who do not report or seek help for their abuse, for a variety of reasons: 
Men are often socialized not to express their feelings or see themselves as victims.
Pervading beliefs or stereotypes about men being abusers, women being victims.
The abuse of men is often treated as less serious, or a “joke.”
Many believe there are no resources or support available for male victims.
No matter what your situation is, the Hotline and loveisrespect are here to help, confidentially and without judgment. Please give us a call or chat with us anytime. Click here for more info about resources and info specifically for men and boys.

loveisrespect:

At the Hotline and loveisrespect, we know that domestic violence and dating abuse can affect anyone—including men. Although they make up a smaller percentage of our callers and chatters, there are many more men who do not report or seek help for their abuse, for a variety of reasons: 

  • Men are often socialized not to express their feelings or see themselves as victims.
  • Pervading beliefs or stereotypes about men being abusers, women being victims.
  • The abuse of men is often treated as less serious, or a “joke.”
  • Many believe there are no resources or support available for male victims.

No matter what your situation is, the Hotline and loveisrespect are here to help, confidentially and without judgment. Please give us a call or chat with us anytime. Click here for more info about resources and info specifically for men and boys.

(via musingsofanawkwardblackgirl)



I couldn’t help myself. I asked one of my investigators how Pace is responding to the investigation. 

I’m so curious. 





Lol I hear my mom talking to my grandmother’s cousin (whatever that makes her to me I have no idea) about my bad college experiences and that I got date raped again. My mom said “I’m not even kidding.”

My mom just loves calling it date rape.

I don’t.


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Emotional violence is real violence. If he believes it's HIS choice whether or not to respect YOUR body, he has already shown you that he is dangers. He has shown you that your boundaries are his decision. Your safety is his decision. If he wouldnt ever hit you, he wouldnt need to tell you how capable he was of it. I never say, "What's up? Good thing i dont stab you" to my friends. If someone shows you your safety is their decision, they are not safe.
Anonymous
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I'm the anon with the boyfriend who has anger issues.. He doesn't work on his issues.. he just tries to repress his feelings of anger, which makes me feel disconnected from him. But when I tell him that I don't think he's capable of hitting me, he just laughs and says "I don't know about that." We've been arguing about this and a few other little things lately. Do you think it will escalate to actual violence?
Anonymous
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He himself is hinting to you that he could hit you. So, yes, I do think that it can escalate to real violence. There will be a time where he can’t hold himself back.